My Silver Sister Story-One Year Dye Free!

A quote from a Silver Sister/Grombre Instagram and I think it pretty much sums it up for me.

“It is not just grey hair. It is a sagging skin, extra pounds, hot flashes, inability to hold on to my emotions and fear of becoming invisible. I still do it. I am always thinking, if others see me it will be a little easier for them to walk this walk.

Why have I stopped coloring my hair? Mostly because it’s time to start feeling proud with who I am today, right now.

Here’s my past year going dye free summed up:

  • The panic and loathing of the first sight of silvers only lasts a couple of months. After that, the urge to do a female comb over to hide the silver no longer happens.
  • You then get a sense of pride. “Yep, I’m doing this!”. A surge of confidence comes from no longer hiding the gray. It feels really empowering at this point.
  • It becomes really exciting to see exactly what is happening under all those dye jobs. What kind of Silver Sister will you be….I’m a silver streak in the front gal.
  • Then you fall back to moments of insecurity as in the above quote, but you keep going. The confidence that comes from owning yourself and who you are gets stronger each time.
  • When impatience comes, it comes on strong. You’re happy with your silvers and you just want a full head of gray now. And let’s be honest, half a head of gray isn’t the prettiest. This is when you need to power through.
  • When the impatience comes: Go to instagram and become re-inspired by all the beautiful ladies, young and old on Silver Sisters or Grombre. Read their comments and stories.
  • When the impatience comes: Think about going back to hours long hair appointments and spending hundreds of dollars.
  • Different lighting can dramatically change the color and how much silver you see. (See above progression pics)
  • I’ve read it takes approx 2 years for a full silver bob which seems about right. My natural hair is landing just below my eyes in length at this one year point.
  • In my opinion: Cutting is better than blending in gray highlights when frustration sets in, but this is definitely for every woman to decide for herself.
  • Eventually, you need to reassess your makeup. I noticed I’m now at this point, especially in photographs. I’m looking washed out. I’ve realized for me, darkening my eyebrows and lip color does wonders.

My Silver Sister Story-Purple Progression

When I was adding highlights to blend the grays on top to the color on the bottom, I had one annoying yellow bleached streak in the front. After two dye trys, the streak would still not turn gray/silver. I became very frustrated with it.

This was the best the yellow streak ever looked. In the outside light, it just looked bleached and fried. It certainly didn’t look like my true silvers.

Since purple shampoo helps with yellowing grays, I colored my streak purple with Manic Panic dye. My theory being eventually it will fade to a bluish/purple tone, not yellow.

I wasn’t thrilled with the look, but at least it looked intentional now. Sr. Elizondo saw me and just laughed.

After a couple of weeks and a few washings of the streak with Dawn detergent, it mellowed to this. I kind of liked it. It’s definitely not yellow.

Now were at about one month later. It’s very pale at this point and still not yellow. It’s more of a pale pink/rose gold at this point. I’m liking this alot.

My theory seems to be proving true at least up to this point. The directions stated to leave it on for approximately 30 min and it should last 6-8 weeks. I left it on for 10 min and the bottom pic is at one month with some intentional extra washings for it to fade. This stuff seriously stains the color. If I did it again, I would put the Manic Panic on and immediately wash it off. I would also look for a lavender or maybe pink to start with.

My Silver Sister Story- 9 Months

I’m 9 months dye free folks. I have about 4 inches of silver growth. I’m feeling like my dog and I now have similar color hair.

Not only is there color differences, but texture differences. The top portion of my hair is un-dyed virgin quality. It’s so healthy and soft feeling. The lower colored portion of my hair is dry and frizzy. When I let my hair go natural, the difference is obvious. There’s no going back!

 

My Silver Sister Story-6 Months

Ready to see the crazy? Silver hair, blonde hair, brown hair, dark hair, Don’t Care. I’m 6 months dye free and I have about 3 inches of natural growth. My struggle now is with the colored portion of my hair. I’m hoping (fingers crossed) by October the silver will be eye level. Thinking the big chop and color to match the silver will happen then.

 

 

 

 

 

To be continued…

Joining My Silver Sisters

I’m joining the ranks of women who are embracing their natural hair color. I’m not gonna lie, it feels a little scary. Then I see all the beautiful inspirational Silver Sisters on Instagram and I feel really excited about it. It’s a sort of declaration that I’m embracing ME and who I am.

Here is me at a little over one month without hair color and I find myself sneaking peaks of myself in the mirror. The silver soon to be streaks are showing themselves now, particularly at my hairline.


The post above was written about a month ago. Here’s me today at 10 weeks. The main change is happening in front. The more it comes in, the better I feel about it. It’s not as scary as those first few weeks when you see those first grays and the instinct kicks in to color.