Growing out my silvers is no longer as exciting and dramatic looking as it was in the beginning months. It’s now just a game of patience as I wait for the last of the brown highlighted ends gets cut off.
Here’s my first silver status pics for 2020. I think I’m over halfway there.
I’m ready for you year two!
And as for the rest of my locks at this point. It’s looking like I’m a little past the halfway mark of my bob length hair.
Now that I’ve hit the one year Silver Sister mark, it was time for a short haircut. I was ready….and I love it.
This time next year, I’m hoping for a full head of non dyed hair. The gal who cut my hair wasn’t so optimistic, but I’m keeping the faith.
A quote from a Silver Sister/Grombre Instagram and I think it pretty much sums it up for me.
“It is not just grey hair. It is a sagging skin, extra pounds, hot flashes, inability to hold on to my emotions and fear of becoming invisible. I still do it. I am always thinking, if others see me it will be a little easier for them to walk this walk.“
Why have I stopped coloring my hair? Mostly because it’s time to start feeling proud with who I am today, right now.
Here’s my past year going dye free summed up:
- The panic and loathing of the first sight of silvers only lasts a couple of months. After that, the urge to do a female comb over to hide the silver no longer happens.
- You then get a sense of pride. “Yep, I’m doing this!”. A surge of confidence comes from no longer hiding the gray. It feels really empowering at this point.
- It becomes really exciting to see exactly what is happening under all those dye jobs. What kind of Silver Sister will you be….I’m a silver streak in the front gal.
- Then you fall back to moments of insecurity as in the above quote, but you keep going. The confidence that comes from owning yourself and who you are gets stronger each time.
- When impatience comes, it comes on strong. You’re happy with your silvers and you just want a full head of gray now. And let’s be honest, half a head of gray isn’t the prettiest. This is when you need to power through.
- When the impatience comes: Go to instagram and become re-inspired by all the beautiful ladies, young and old on Silver Sisters or Grombre. Read their comments and stories.
- When the impatience comes: Think about going back to hours long hair appointments and spending hundreds of dollars.
- Different lighting can dramatically change the color and how much silver you see. (See above progression pics)
- I’ve read it takes approx 2 years for a full silver bob which seems about right. My natural hair is landing just below my eyes in length at this one year point.
- In my opinion: Cutting is better than blending in gray highlights when frustration sets in, but this is definitely for every woman to decide for herself.
- Eventually, you need to reassess your makeup. I noticed I’m now at this point, especially in photographs. I’m looking washed out. I’ve realized for me, darkening my eyebrows and lip color does wonders.
When I was adding highlights to blend the grays on top to the color on the bottom, I had one annoying yellow bleached streak in the front. After two dye trys, the streak would still not turn gray/silver. I became very frustrated with it.
This was the best the yellow streak ever looked. In the outside light, it just looked bleached and fried. It certainly didn’t look like my true silvers.
Since purple shampoo helps with yellowing grays, I colored my streak purple with Manic Panic dye. My theory being eventually it will fade to a bluish/purple tone, not yellow.
I wasn’t thrilled with the look, but at least it looked intentional now. Sr. Elizondo saw me and just laughed.
After a couple of weeks and a few washings of the streak with Dawn detergent, it mellowed to this. I kind of liked it. It’s definitely not yellow.
Now were at about one month later. It’s very pale at this point and still not yellow. It’s more of a pale pink/rose gold at this point. I’m liking this alot.
My theory seems to be proving true at least up to this point. The directions stated to leave it on for approximately 30 min and it should last 6-8 weeks. I left it on for 10 min and the bottom pic is at one month with some intentional extra washings for it to fade. This stuff seriously stains the color. If I did it again, I would put the Manic Panic on and immediately wash it off. I would also look for a lavender or maybe pink to start with.
Originally, I was wanting lighter colored frames, but with gray hair it’s easy to look washed out. So I had a little fun and went with periwinkle color.
For reading glasses, I followed the rainbow.
Embracing the gray and rockin’ the specs!
Check out these ladies who also got the memo.
I cannot believe I used to like this salon colored blonde…and I liked it for years! So much damage, time, and money spent trying to maintain it. Not to mention after a few weeks, it would always begin to change to an orange or banana yellow color. Ugh.
Moving forward it’s time for a chop. I’m at 7 months dye free now and I’m more than happy to cut off some length and color. I was going to try to wait a few more months, but I’m ready now.
I told my plans to a woman and she told me not to do it. “Hang on to the blonde so you can look younger for awhile longer”. Clearly, this woman and I think differently.
I love it! In fact, I’m already thinking next visit I might go a little bit shorter.
I recently saw Sr. Elizondo’s son using an app to actually change his physical features on a picture before putting it on Instagram. He laughed and said, “Don’t judge. Everyone does it”. Really? I hope “Everyone” posting isn’t thinking what they truly look like isn’t good enough.
I’m officially 7 months on my road to silver sisterhood. The pics below are me after I just rolled out of bed. Dye free, makeup free, filter free, all me.
Ready to see the crazy? Silver hair, blonde hair, brown hair, dark hair, Don’t Care. I’m 6 months dye free and I have about 3 inches of natural growth. My struggle now is with the colored portion of my hair. I’m hoping (fingers crossed) by October the silver will be eye level. Thinking the big chop and color to match the silver will happen then.
To be continued…