Survival Post from Garance Doré

Culture

SURVIVAL

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Survival
Warning: This post deals with sexual assault for those who are triggered by such subject matter.
_____________I am told to calm down.I am told they won’t talk to me until I calm down.I am asked why am I yelling.I am asked why am I so upset.

I am told my anger is why I am not taken seriously.

I am a survivor of sexual assault.

I have been sexually assaulted throughout my life by strangers and acquaintances alike.

In crowded bars, broad daylight, and dark corners.

By men like Donald Trump who have seen my body as up for grabs.

By men like Brock Turner whose life I dare not ruin after they’ve decimated mine.

By men like Brett Kavanaugh who wake up sober, with no recollection and thus no blame.

When will their gender and race no longer protect them?

When will my life hold the same value as theirs?

When will we stop exalting them?

I have filed police reports and internalized the shame.

I cross the street to walk in the light, I ask girlfriends to text me when they get home.

I am fucking angry because we didn’t ask for any of this.

I am fucking yelling because I still don’t feel heard.

I am yelling because Dr. Christine Blasey Ford isn’t allowed to.

She must be perceived as a “nice lady,” as Senator Lindsey Graham described her.

But, Brett Kavanaugh is allowed to yell.

He’s allowed to interrupt.

He’s allowed to be mad.

And soon he will be allowed to govern my body.

Their feet on our necks will press down harder.

I will not apologize for my anger because I am gulping for air.

I will not apologize for my voice that is making you uncomfortable because I am the one who has the right to be angry.

Instead I ask you, where is your anger? Tucked away behind your privilege?

Two French Cult Beauty Product Trys

Beauty

I’m working my way through French Beauty products that seem to have major followings. I’ve already tried the Bioderma Micellar H20 and I’m never looking back. Micellar water is great for cleansing the face.

Now I’ve been using Nuxe Huile Prodigieuse. It’s a dry oil that works for face, body, and hair. This oil has now replaced my body lotion. I just wish I had bought the bigger bottle.

The second product is Caudalíe Beauty Elixir. I see this elixir everywhere on beauty blogs. I was a little nervous to try this because my skin is so sensitive, but no pain no gain. You can use it as toner, to set your makeup, or simply as a refresher midday. It contains different oils/essences that are supposed to be healthy for your skin.

I began using it as a toner right after my micellar water. It feels cool, smells great, and I could definitely feel my skin tingling. I began using it midday too, giving myself a spritz when my skin started feeling a little greasy/dirty. I might be becoming addicted. Hence, why my bottle is almost empty in this picture. I will definitely be purchasing this again.

BTW: My sensitive skin had no reaction to this product. However, I did use it one time immediately after exfoliation and the tingling felt a bit more like stinging. I won’t be doing that again.

Caregiving for Sammers

Sunday Sol

Before our trip, Sam had a tumor on her eye that needed to be surgically removed. We got back on Friday and she had surgery on Tuesday. The surgery went well, she’s ok, and now I’m the caregiver for my little conehead.

At the very basic level she’s so small she cannot maneuver the stairs with a cone. We live 3 level home, 4 if you count the garden. So, I’m having to carry her up and down the stairs and to the bathroom. Next is the feeding. How are animals supposed to eat out of their bowls with a cone on their head? I haven’t figured it out and neither has Sam. So, I sit and hand feed her meals to her.

Next is administering the medications. Sam can be pissy, so this is extra stressful for me. I’ve worked this out though. Both pain med and antibiotic I can crunch up and blend into her wet food. The eye drops is a cross your fingers and hope it falls into the eye type of scenario. And as for the cleansing of the eye, I’ve done it once so far and she was surprisingly calm with it. Maybe it actually feels good for her.

So there you have it. My life and Sams for the next 6 days.

 

 

Speaking in Disclaimers

Sunday Sol

Conversations are making me nervous these days and I’ve noticed myself speaking in disclaimers. I make a comment and I immediately follow up with a statement to make sure no one is offended by what I’ve just said. The comments I’m speaking of are not political, just normal, everyday, casual comments.

I’ve become conversationally paranoid. Is everybody really waiting to pounce on any statement that can be construed in some way as inappropriate or offensive?

I guess whether this is true or not, I need to relax.

Current Read-The Spy

Culture

Between and during flights, I slammed out a new Paulo Coelho book, “The Spy”.

I went through a Paulo Coelho phase in my twenties and read quite a few of his books. At the time, I couldn’t get enough. I forgot how easy his books are to read. This one is about the life of Mata Hari and is full of Coehlo’s life lessons blended in.

This book made me want to know more about this woman and her life. She’s an interesting woman for sure.

New Birks

Closet

I think I’ve had a pair of Birkenstocks in my closet since I was around 22-23 years old. Some years I wear them constantly and other years they sit in my closet and collect dust.

i bought my 4th pair recently. They’re the perfect traveling sandal and I spotted them everywhere on our recent trip. In my opinion, they’re classic, never go out of style shoes.

I’ve been trying to get Sr Elizondo to buy a pair, but he’s content with his Crocs. Different strokes for different folks.

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My Zurich Food Stops

Travel

 

The fondue restaurant Swiss Chuchi didn’t disappoint. Reservations would not be a bad idea.

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Zeughauskeller is a popular beer house, especially with tourists. I thought this restaurant and food was just okay. There was not a lot of people when we went, so the “fun” atmosphere that makes this restaurant was lacking.

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My favorite restaurant by far was found randomly. Schtund is just off Bahnhofstrasse. It’s a small bistro specializing in Flammkuchens. I had never heard of this food, but I’m now it’s biggest fan.

Sprungli is a must see and taste for chocolate and macarons.

And our worst food experience in Zurich was beef tartare with spices. Points for effort on our part for giving it a try.