My Silver Sister Story-One Year Dye Free!

A quote from a Silver Sister/Grombre Instagram and I think it pretty much sums it up for me.

“It is not just grey hair. It is a sagging skin, extra pounds, hot flashes, inability to hold on to my emotions and fear of becoming invisible. I still do it. I am always thinking, if others see me it will be a little easier for them to walk this walk.

Why have I stopped coloring my hair? Mostly because it’s time to start feeling proud with who I am today, right now.

Here’s my past year going dye free summed up:

  • The panic and loathing of the first sight of silvers only lasts a couple of months. After that, the urge to do a female comb over to hide the silver no longer happens.
  • You then get a sense of pride. “Yep, I’m doing this!”. A surge of confidence comes from no longer hiding the gray. It feels really empowering at this point.
  • It becomes really exciting to see exactly what is happening under all those dye jobs. What kind of Silver Sister will you be….I’m a silver streak in the front gal.
  • Then you fall back to moments of insecurity as in the above quote, but you keep going. The confidence that comes from owning yourself and who you are gets stronger each time.
  • When impatience comes, it comes on strong. You’re happy with your silvers and you just want a full head of gray now. And let’s be honest, half a head of gray isn’t the prettiest. This is when you need to power through.
  • When the impatience comes: Go to instagram and become re-inspired by all the beautiful ladies, young and old on Silver Sisters or Grombre. Read their comments and stories.
  • When the impatience comes: Think about going back to hours long hair appointments and spending hundreds of dollars.
  • Different lighting can dramatically change the color and how much silver you see. (See above progression pics)
  • I’ve read it takes approx 2 years for a full silver bob which seems about right. My natural hair is landing just below my eyes in length at this one year point.
  • In my opinion: Cutting is better than blending in gray highlights when frustration sets in, but this is definitely for every woman to decide for herself.
  • Eventually, you need to reassess your makeup. I noticed I’m now at this point, especially in photographs. I’m looking washed out. I’ve realized for me, darkening my eyebrows and lip color does wonders.

My Silver Sister Story-Purple Progression

When I was adding highlights to blend the grays on top to the color on the bottom, I had one annoying yellow bleached streak in the front. After two dye trys, the streak would still not turn gray/silver. I became very frustrated with it.

This was the best the yellow streak ever looked. In the outside light, it just looked bleached and fried. It certainly didn’t look like my true silvers.

Since purple shampoo helps with yellowing grays, I colored my streak purple with Manic Panic dye. My theory being eventually it will fade to a bluish/purple tone, not yellow.

I wasn’t thrilled with the look, but at least it looked intentional now. Sr. Elizondo saw me and just laughed.

After a couple of weeks and a few washings of the streak with Dawn detergent, it mellowed to this. I kind of liked it. It’s definitely not yellow.

Now were at about one month later. It’s very pale at this point and still not yellow. It’s more of a pale pink/rose gold at this point. I’m liking this alot.

My theory seems to be proving true at least up to this point. The directions stated to leave it on for approximately 30 min and it should last 6-8 weeks. I left it on for 10 min and the bottom pic is at one month with some intentional extra washings for it to fade. This stuff seriously stains the color. If I did it again, I would put the Manic Panic on and immediately wash it off. I would also look for a lavender or maybe pink to start with.

Covet Corner-October 2019

This Crate and Barrel chair.

The ability to cook puff pastry perfectly. (‘m 4/4 failures. I give up.)

Maira Kalman illustrated (and always thoughtful) books.

Le Creuset French Press.

Biologique Recherche P50. Supposed to be amazing and a price tag to reflect that.

 

Gray Hair and Glasses

Originally, I was wanting lighter colored frames, but with gray hair it’s easy to look washed out. So I had a little fun and went with periwinkle color.

For reading glasses, I followed the rainbow.

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Embracing the gray and rockin’ the specs!

Check out these ladies who also got the memo.

 

 

My Silver Sister Story- 11 Months

I’m at the 11 month marker of going gray and it’s been a few weeks since I added some gray highlights and toner to blend with my original color. This was done mostly for a wedding I’m attending on Saturday. Now that the deed is done, I wish I had not blended and here’s why.

The non dyed portion of my hair was previously baby soft and healthy feeling has now become dryer again from the highlights. It’s not a big problem and really only noticeable to me, but it will take another 10 months to feel that kind of hair again.

Because I have a natural prominent front silver streak, we added quite a bit of the highlight to the front. A portion of the bleach never turned the silver white, but maintained a yellow tinge. We did it a second time which made it a little better, but it’s still yellowish. I now have a portion of extremely dry hair there and some unwanted bangs due to breakage. I’m not willing to go a third round of bleach to try for the solid silver. I have no doubt this front streak is going to suck to grow out due to color and damage.

Lastly, toner which was my favorite part of blending my hair has already faded out some. I can see the caramel/orange color returning. It’s not as dramatic though…at least not yet. Regardless, I’ll cut before I toner again.

For me, blending has more cons than pros. It looks better than before, but If I could do it all over again, I would simply put my hair up for the wedding and not worry about it. Frequent haircuts is the better route when embracing your silvers. Live and learn.

 

Mature Skin Essentials

I think when you become a woman of a certain age, less is more when it comes to makeup. A week or so ago for no particular reason, I blended the BB cream into my full face and egads it sunk into lines by my mouth! A line on each side. Lines I never noticed before, but the cream made them more pronounced. A full face of foundation wasn’t doing me any favors. Normally, I use a little BB cream on my T-zone to even out the skin tone, eyebrow pencil, mascara, and lipstick/lip balm. Makeup in general has been taking a back seat to skincare for me for awhile now.

I did some online research on skin care for us mature ladies. While not definitive, it seems most professionals agree on these essentials:

Morning

  1. Cleanser
  2. Serum
  3. Moisturizer containing Hydraulic Acid
  4. Sunscreen

Night

  1. Cleanser
  2. Retinol
  3. Moisturizer (if needed)

As a woman with in her early 50’s with combination and sensitive skin, here’s the current products I’m using and am really happy with.

Morning

  1. Cleanser: Micellar water and Caudalie foam cleanser
  2. 1-2x per week I exfoliate using Neutrogena Oil Free Acne Wash Pink Grapefruit
  3. Serum: Caudalie Vinoperfect
  4. Moisturizer: Vichy Aqualia Thermal
  5. I don’t use sunscreen. I know I should, but I have yet to find one that does not irritate my skin.

Night

  1. Cleanser: Micellar water
  2. Filorga Sleep & Peel
  3.  1x per week instead of Filorga, I use A313 Pomade

 

 

 

 

My Silver Sister Story-10 Months

It’s officially 10 1/2 months and I’m at a silver sister crossroads. I am HATING the different colors happening in my hair. For the first time since I began my silver journey, I’ve actually started having moments of wanting to color over it. I won’t, but I’ve had the feelings.

IT IS time to blend the color by bringing the silver all the way down to the ends. I did some serious internet searching for a colorist. I found Karina and she had over 100 excellent reviews and speaks English. Bingo!

After 6 long hours of stripping color, re-coloring, toning, cutting, she finished. We brought the front streak all the way down to the ends and peppered silver strands all through the back.

I’m super happy with the result and my fingers are crossed this was the last visit to the salon for a color.